verb gerund or present participle: gaslighting
manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity. "in the first episode, Karen Valentine is being gaslighted by her husband"
Gaslighting is something I have struggled with my entire life. I don't even know if people realize they are doing it half the time, I actually have started to think that gaslighting has become a way of American Culture. I say American because I haven't traveled the world yet, so I can't assume everywhere is like here, you know?
Your partner comes home from work late but you were positive this morning that said partner reminded you they'd be home for dinner. You actually specifically remember the interaction with the person this morning because you even made sure to write it down so you knew your time schedule for the day. Dinner comes and goes but your partner isn't there. They aren't answering their phone, they aren't responding to texts. Inside, your mind starts racing with worry (because that's what we do), and then you get mad. You specifically remember this person telling you they would be there, and then when they get home you are met with something you never could have expected.
"Babe, why did you make dinner for me? I told you this morning I wasn't going to be home, you always do this. You never listen or remember anything important to me. Now we've wasted food we didn't have to waste, and I'm not eating the leftovers of your carelessness."
Now wait just a second, right? What the hell is going on? You even made a note to remind yourself, and now this person is telling you it's basically all made up in your head, and causing you to doubt what you specifically remember happening. The person sticks firm to their point that YOU were wrong and remembering things the wrong way.
It's a type of manipulation that repeatedly exposed to will have you so upside in your mind that I guarantee life is not at its most joyous for you. It's a type of insanity that builds inside of you, all at the expense of manipulation.
But listen, sweet Empaths. Once you are made aware of what is happening, once you realize this person (or persons) is trying to manipulate you to feel less than, unworthy or totally out of control.... it's a total game changer.
Why? Because Empaths are human lie detectors. That feeling you are getting that you know you're not wrong and feeling everything upside --- it's because inside you know something isn't right but you've been beaten down to where your own intuition has become silenced. So what do you do if you realize, as an Empath, that this is going on?
Knowledge is power. There is something that happens in that moment of realization. It's this moment where you look at the other person, your intuition now flaring to life, and you say "wait a minute... how long has this been going on?" And you start to think back... all of these moments playing in your mind of where you swore one thing but were convinced another. Every time you felt or knew something wasn't right or something was "coming" but you didn't know what.... it all lines up in that moment.
Yes, it's heartbreaking to realize what's happening but I need to remind you to push past that part. Once you realize this is happening you literally, 100% have the upper hand.
You have the power.
You have come alive.
You will instantly know that things need to change. You will instantly realize what an idiot that person is (I'm not joking).
You will instantly be able to feel every time this is happening to you.
Now that the power is in your hands, because you can see and sense and feel the deception, it's on you how you choose to react to it.
It's literally a frequency that an Empath can feel - a tiny tug on your psychic line that says "Seriously?" You aren't going to be able to change the Gaslighter, and to be honest if you're reading this you probably don't want to. You are most likely either praising how you aren't dealing with this anymore, or this level of clarity is waking you up.
Either way, Dear Empaths, Gaslighting is indeed a serious manipulation tactic. I want to encourage you to dig deep. To remember that your Human emotions are like allergic reactions to the situation that you are in, at any time. If you find yourself feeling sad, exhausted, depressed, overwhelmed or completely lost that's your higher self trying to get you to realize your life is meant to be so much more. If you don't know what to do or how to get out of the situation that you are in, I highly recommend talking to a licensed professional, calling a crisis hotline, or hell, call someone you trust and love. Not an option for you? Then reach out to me. Or any Energy Healer in your area (there are lots!).
We need you to be YOU -- unapologetically you. You are sparkling and shining and realizing that life is so much more than lower frequencies. You are realizing that there is an entire world out there that is rooting for you....
Hear those cheers every time you realize someone thinks they have control over you. We are rooting for you. We are praising that you see the manipulation now.
The next step? A salt bath.